WIW (and why I probably won't wear it again)

This was one of my favorite swap meet finds of all time: a Nicole Miller pseudo-galaxy/aurora borealis print dress. I had been saving it for New Year's or a wrap party for DH's work or some other event warranting a Bodycon Dress, but today I thought I'd debombshell it with my drapey knit linen sweater and sport some pink flecks while it's still BCAM.

I liked the look a lot but, for whatever reason, this outfit made men want to talk to me. They normally don't (trust me), but I got comments today. Really disliked that, so I'll probably stick to the original plan and wear this baby only when I'll have a spiffy DH on my arm to debombshell the look.

Bonus shot of the dress in all its bodycon glory.

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  • Mochi replied 7 years ago

    Having met rae in person, I'm totally shocked that this isn't a daily occurrence for her...but if she says it's so, I'll have to take her word for it. I'm glad the dress will still have a life when Hubs is around--it's completely gorgeous!

  • cheryle (Dianthus) replied 7 years ago

    That is a wow dress for sure. You looked amazing so it is too bad the attention was a deterrent to wearing it again.

  • Sylvie replied 7 years ago

    What Mochi said.

  • Diana replied 7 years ago

    You look amazing, but I totally sympathize with your reasons for being uncomfortable wearing this again. I would do the same thing. I have always hated unwanted male attention, and doubly so now that I am attached. I admit I used to wear my silver ring (gift from my parents) on my left ring finger on occasion to ward off male attention.

  • Raisin replied 7 years ago

    Very nice dress! I love it paired with the top, I never would have thought of that but it works so well for a day time look. Too bad you're not going to wear it like that again, it really works well.

  • rachylou replied 7 years ago

    You mean with the sweater ON, they were coming over?

    Not that you don't look lovely, but the sweater definitely defuses the bodycon.

  • Angie replied 7 years ago

    This is the best version of body con I have seen you sport. KILLER. And the blokes in LA thought the same thing :)

  • moira replied 7 years ago

    It's very feminine. It seems that you generally wear "tougher" clothes.
    Maybe this made you seem more approachable, somehow?

  • rae replied 7 years ago

    Diana, I have totally done that, too. And I was waving my left hand around like a crazy person trying to get one guy to go away, but I guess it was too subtle. Not that these people were being gross or rude; I just don't enjoy it.

    Rachy, YES! Confuses me as well. The boxy look was reeling them in. o_0

    Angie, thank you! I think the length makes a huge difference.

  • Mo replied 7 years ago

    Rae, it looks awesome! Maybe you were just portraying an air of confidence they found appealing? I dunno - I had random people come talk to me when I wore my bright red jeans here in FL last fall. I thought perhaps they assumed I was outgoing because of the bright color?

  • Thistle replied 7 years ago

    Rae, that dress looks amazing on you! Too bad for all the unwanted attention, though. I completely understand why you save it for when you are accessorizing with DH!

    You really find amazing things at swap meets!

  • catgirl replied 7 years ago

    Rae, the reality is that you're gorgeous, and lots of men feel free to chat up women generally, with no regard for whether you are wanting them to do it. Perfect what I call the "go thither look" (this is the opposite of the "come hither look") and wear this dress with pride, because it was made for you.

    I got propositioned today by a drunken guy at the bus stop, who used Kona as his opening line: "Pretty dog. I like long legs. I like pretty women with dogs with long legs...." Wha...? And I'm covered head to toe in a down puffer!

  • Suz replied 7 years ago

    Wow, I LOVE this on you. I am sorry it garnered unwanted male attention. But you know...you really look great in this, and to me it is a very understatedly sexy look even in all its body con glory - not tarty in the least!

  • Ariadne replied 7 years ago

    This is easily one of my favourite outfits of yours. You'll have to plan LOTS of outings with your DH so it can get the wear it deserves!

  • Scarlet replied 7 years ago

    This looks so freaking great both ways, and the first way is very modest in my opinion and one of my favorite outfits of yours I think ever. Maybe it was just weird guy day? Full moon? (love Una's example) You should give it another outing and see.
    ETA: along the lines of Mo, maybe the dress just makes you feel great and you were projecting a confident/intriguing/positive/whatever energy.

  • rae replied 7 years ago

    Wow, Una, maybe it WAS the moon... either that or you need a puffer for poor Kona to hide her shapely legs. At least yours makes into a great story!

    I've been told several times throughout life that my relaxed face sort of settles into a permanent scowl that makes me unapproachable. I guess I've been taking that for granted all these years.

  • catgirl replied 7 years ago

    Actually, he may have been hitting on Kona... Ugh. You know what they say, men are dogs.

    Do not stop wearing that dress, or the terrorists will have won!

  • Ingunn replied 7 years ago

    That dress is made for you! And because you are such a very beautiful woman, I find it strange that you don't get that kind of male attention every single day. Don't make that stop you wearing the dress, de-bombshelled or otherwise, you look confident and stunning in it. I understand that unwanted attention is annoying, of course, but please don't let them decide how you can dress, because then they win.

  • CocoLion replied 7 years ago

    A stunning look.

    And one of life's ironies is definitely that once you are no longer bothered by unwanted male attention, you don't really get ... unwanted male attention. ;-)

  • Mochi replied 7 years ago

    (LOL, Una. It was you who said, "The odds are good, but the goods are odd.")

  • replied 7 years ago

    Oh, that's funny, using a S.O. to de-bombshell a bodycon outfit. I'll have to remember that. Your dress is so gorgeous on you, but I'm sorry that weird males might have put you off wearing it. Sheesh. They need to get some manners.

  • Transcona Shannon replied 7 years ago

    This dress is perfectly stunning on you Rae! Sorry that you got attention that made you uncomfortable but you can't help that you're gorgeous!

  • ironkurtin replied 7 years ago

    Men can be SO stupid.

    Rae, that face is called a NYC face. I had one for the subway. Worked like a charm except the one time the guy next to me was looking at pictures of women having sex with animals and really wanted to share. All the nail-eyed bitchface in the world didn't stop THAT loser. I changed seats.

    You look gorgeous, so when you rock this out with the boy feel proud!

  • Beth Ann replied 7 years ago

    Wonderful dress, Rae! Do find a place to wear it again!

  • Sylvie replied 7 years ago

    Definitely work on the "death glare". It protects me from getting approached.

  • Carole replied 7 years ago

    Rae, don't let gawking men keep you from wearing this dress, it looks FANTASTIC!!! It doesn't appear to be too bod con but I know pictures can be deceiving. Anyway, you look gorgeous~

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